From time to time, all of us get stuck in stinkin’ thinkin’ that gets in the way of who we want to be. Sometimes, it’s in the moment. Other times, those negative thoughts linger, causing us to feel like there’s no way out.
When that happens to me, I remember something my parents taught me when I was growing up: it’s a simple, catchy, and easy-to-remember way to reset our thoughts, to push out that negative mindset, and get unstuck.
It’s called ‘Cancel Cancel,’ and it really works!
I grew up with ‘Cancel Cancel’ in every aspect of my life. When my mom or dad heard me say something like, “Ugh! I can’t believe I was so stupid!” They would come back with: “Cancel cancel, you’re smart!”
They were so good about using this to help me redirect negative thoughts and affirm who I really was, that I began to do it too. I’m so grateful, because, even today, that stinkin’ thinkin’ still creeps in. Something will happen, I will make a mistake, miss a commitment, or fail… Then, in my head, I hear: “How could you be so dumb!” or “What’s wrong with you, Trish!”
Yep, it’s still there. And it’s not alone. On the other side of those negative words is, ‘Cancel cancel!’ It still works as well as it did when I was younger. I’m able to refocus, get unstuck, and be who I want to be in that moment.
So, here’s my invitation for you today:
Listen for some of the stinkin’ thinkin’ you hear around you. Listen to your family, friends, and coworkers, people at the store or restaurant, wherever you find yourself. Become more aware of what they are saying… and of what you are saying to yourself.
“Oh, I can’t believe I’m so stupid!”
“I’m so dumb!”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“I’m an idiot!”
You may have been saying some of those things to yourself your whole life. Whatever those words may be, try this today: When they come bubbling up, ‘Cancel cancel!’
It’s kinda cool. It’s kinda catchy too. Try it out, see how it goes, and let me know what happens.
Starting a new career later in life? Here’s how you thrive!
Career change is often one of the scariest prospects for any worker, and that stress is magnified when you’re faced with this decision later in your working life. You’ve dedicated all your time and talent to a certain job or industry for decades and, now,...
How “yesterday thinking” limits our leadership
Recently, I was having a conversation with a colleague, and I could feel – very nearly see – the anger radiating off him. When I asked what he was struggling with, he seemed genuinely confused. ‘Everything’s going great,’ he assured me. Yet, the upset in...
3 lessons on visionary leadership from Crazy Horse
“Vision” is one of those business words that used to have a lot more meaning than it does today. Overuse and misapplication have nearly reduced “vision” from a transformational foundation into a buzzword without any real power. This need not be the case,...
How to earn trust when you’re new on the job
In our last blog, we continued the story of Chandra, a young professional woman who had been pushed out of her position of trust at a previous employer. Seeking a fresh start, she took a job with a former supervisor, Wayne, now a senior manager at another...
Hey Trish? What if I’m a better leader than my boss?
Recently, someone contacted me asking this question: What if I’m a better leader than my boss? Will their limitations hold me back? And, if so, what can I do about it? These are questions – often unspoken – that many people ask on a regular basis. While...
Leading from the inside: A case study
Leadership is not about a title. Leadership is the result of our daily choices. It’s when we commit to offer our best selves while inspiring others to do the same. And we don’t have to wait until we’re assigned authority to do this. Let’s look at a real-world example...
The Dangers of Success?
The Dangers of Success? How to avoid pitfalls of success that get us stuck and build for long-term success Much has been written about pitfalls in business, how this or that decision, habit or tendency may trigger failure. One topic that sometimes gets missed...
Want to be significant? Here’s a good place to start.
Gather any group of successful leaders together and ask them to define significance. You may well get as many answers as there are people in the room. What you will find, though, is that every one of them believes in the value of pursuing significance. As leaders,...
5 questions to test your relational leadership
We’ve all heard the phrase, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” Now, aside from the fact that what you know is definitely important, there is some truth to the idea that relationships influence your options, in business and in life. Healthy relationships...
0 Comments